Monday, October 26, 2009

Million Dollar Thinking Habits - By Stephanie Frank

What is a million dollar thinker, anyway?

Million dollar thinkers think about things like money and making decisions in a different way from the average person, using both the conscious and the subconscious mind.

As an example: suppose you were $10,000 in debt. The average person would focus on the debt, how to pay it, how to get out of it. They may take on a second job to pay the debt. The focus, no matter what, would be on the debt.

A million dollar thinker, on the other hand, would take that same situation and look at it 180 degrees differently. The million dollar thinker would look at the $10,000 debt, and immediately come up with a plan to earn $20,000. Focusing on solving a problem and strategizing how to make more money is infinitely more interesting, thought provoking and ultimately more prosperous than focusing on the negativity of debt.

Right now, make a choice to understand how your mind and thoughts work. The exploration of the subconscious mind and belief systems that keep us from realizing our biggest dreams is a fascinating study -- and one that is well worth the time and effort to anyone who wants to be successful.

First, take a look at your belief systems -- you know, the ones that everybody talks about but never really digs into? Do you have thoughts like...

"I'm not good enough"

"Money doesn't grow on trees"

"There's not enough to go around."

These are beliefs that infiltrate the conscious mind; ones that people hold onto very tightly, unaware of the damage that they do. Of course, none of those self defeating thoughts is true but they feel very real when you're thinking them.

It's important to learn more about the mind and how these beliefs work -- especially, how the mind can create exactly the circumstances or situations we are thinking about. Even the bad ones. This is powerful stuff.

The subconscious mind is a subset of our entire brain system. There are really three types of processing controls in the brain. First is the unconscious mind. It controls things like breathing. Next is the conscious mind. It is the part of the brain you are using to process the words on this page, to think thoughts, meditate, create and sort information. It is the part of your brain that gets very busy, congested and filled with information and random bits of thinking, songs and entire paragraphs of text. It is that little monster or angel on your shoulder that tells you great things or hurtful things about yourself.

Last is the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is kind of like a factory, processing the thoughts that your conscious mind gives it. It has no control or discerning capabilities to determine whether a thought is productive and serves you well, or tears you down and makes you cry. Either way, it just goes about its business, carrying out the thoughts you send to it.

If you can, picture the subconscious mind like a bunch of little workers, running around to make sure your thoughts are carried out. When you say to yourself "This is hard work," then the subconscious goes to work, making sure your thoughts are carried out and the result is "This is hard." The subconscious mind has no line between good and bad, it simply works to the logical conclusion, which is the ability to make your thoughts come to fruition.

The subconscious mind does not understand things like "can't," and it is unable to comprehend the difference between what you want and don't want. Like a picture in your mind, it only sees the end result, and goes about achieving that end result. The subconscious mind has a lot to do with what actually shows up in your life, based on the pictures, words and language you use to describe what you want.

The idea is to break negative subconscious beliefs. There is a process to enable you to do exactly that. Here it is:

First, think. What beliefs are holding you back? Do you feel not worthy of success? Not smart enough? Not lucky enough? What originally led you to believe the thought(s) that is/are holding you back?

Say you grew up in a family where money was tight. You grew up to believe that the deck is stacked against you. That, no matter how hard you work, the Universe is predisposed to keeping you in a state of lack. And so your work habits keep you sabotaging yourself -- a way for your subconscious mind to stop you from being successful, and therefore disloyal to your family, who never achieved any great measure of success.

Now, close your eyes. Take a few deep breaths and get very comfortable. Imagine being in a very beautiful place, a safe place -- somewhere where you feel completely at ease and relaxed.

Now, bring your parents into your mind's eye picture, and have them sit down with you. When you've done that, say these words. "Folks, I have an opportunity to be successful beyond my wildest dreams. I'm holding myself back out of loyalty to you and I don't want to do that anymore. I am choosing to be very successful in my personal, professional and financial life. I love you very much and respect everything that you are, and I want you to support me in this choice."

In your mind's eye, see your parents smiling, and speaking words of comfort and encouragement, such as -- "Darling, don't you dare follow in our footsteps. We want you to have anything you dream of. We love you too, and support you in your decisions."

Now, don't you suddenly feel lighter, freer? Open your eyes slowly. Know that you can use this new tool any time you feel concern for your well-being.

Beliefs such as "I'm not good enough" that can haunt your conscious mind, need close scrutiny. Believing the "I'm not good enough" part can be easy, but where does it come from? Somebody gave you the belief!

Once you recognize that this was someone else's belief and not your own (and not necessarily true!), you can begin to let go of it. Using the tool you were given above, have a meditation session with yourself to remove the mental file that holds the "I can do better" belief. Replace it with a new file in your mind called, "I do things well the first time." What a difference it can make in your thinking.

Then continue, taking a close look at many of the self defeating beliefs you've held, eliminating them one by one from your life, your vocabulary and your conscious thought. Once you bring your beliefs to the surface and determine the source, letting go of them is the next step to help you evolve as the successful person you want to be.

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About the Author:

Stephanie Frank, Founder and President of SuccessIQ University, is the best selling author of "The Accidental Millionaire."

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